The fair place to meet is Denver, CO — the city closest to the midpoint of Albuquerque and Oklahoma City. From the farther side that’s about 10 hr 34 min of driving.
Recommended midpoint
Denver, CO
From Albuquerque
7 hr 1 min
334 mi to Denver
From Oklahoma City
10 hr 34 min
504 mi to Denver
Albuquerque has the shorter trip; the split is off by about 3 hr 33 min. The alternatives below can even it out. Albuquerque and Oklahoma City are about 516 miles apart.
Albuquerque and Oklahoma City are about 516 miles apart by road. Split the difference and you arrive near Denver, the city closest to the halfway point between them. That puts roughly 7 hr 1 min of driving on the Albuquerque side and 10 hr 34 min on the Oklahoma City side — the fairest single meeting point among the cities near the middle.
That's a half-day drive from each side, so Denver suits an overnight or a weekend rather than a quick coffee — long enough to want a reason to stay, short enough to drive.
If Denver doesn't have what you're after, Dallas and El Paso are also close to the midpoint and worth a look — each keeps the drive reasonably balanced between Albuquerque and Oklahoma City.
Denver is the capital and most populous city of the U.S. state of Colorado. Officially a consolidated city and county, it is located in the South Platte River valley on the western edge of the High Plains, and is just east of the Front Range of the Rocky… Read more →
Albuquerque is the most populous city in the U.S. state of New Mexico. Founded in 1706 as La Villa de Alburquerque by Santa Fe de Nuevo México governor Francisco Cuervo y Valdés, and named in honor of Francisco Fernández de la Cueva, 10th Duke of Alburquerque… Read more →
Oklahoma City, often shortened to OKC, is the capital and most populous city in the U.S. state of Oklahoma. It is the 21st-most populous U.S. city and 8th largest in the Southern United States, with a population of 681,054 at the 2020 census. Read more →
City descriptions adapted from Wikipedia (CC BY-SA); photos via Wikimedia Commons, credited above.
Estimates use straight-line distance and typical road speeds; real drive times vary with route and traffic.