The fair place to meet is San Jose, CA — the city closest to the midpoint of El Paso and Honolulu. From the farther side that’s about 50 hr 36 min of driving.
Recommended midpoint
San Jose, CA
From El Paso
20 hr 3 min
956 mi to San Jose
From Honolulu
50 hr 36 min
2,413 mi to San Jose
El Paso has the shorter trip; the split is off by about 30 hr 33 min. The alternatives below can even it out. El Paso and Honolulu are about 3,227 miles apart.
El Paso and Honolulu are about 3,227 miles apart by road. Split the difference and you arrive near San Jose, the city closest to the halfway point between them. That puts roughly 20 hr 3 min of driving on the El Paso side and 50 hr 36 min on the Honolulu side — the fairest single meeting point among the cities near the middle.
Over this distance most people will fly rather than drive the whole way. San Jose still makes a fair, central place for El Paso and Honolulu to converge, splitting the travel instead of asking one side to cross the country.
If San Jose doesn't have what you're after, San Francisco and Los Angeles are also close to the midpoint and worth a look — each keeps the drive reasonably balanced between El Paso and Honolulu.
San Jose, officially the City of San José, is the most populous city in the San Francisco Bay Area and Northern California, and the 13th-most populous in the United States, with an estimated 989,814 residents as of 2025. Read more →
El Paso is a city in and the county seat of El Paso County, Texas, United States. It is the 22nd-most populous city in the U.S., sixth-most populous city in Texas, and the most populous city in West Texas with a population of 678,815 at the 2020 census. Read more →
Honolulu is the capital and most populous city of the U.S. state of Hawaii, located in the Pacific Ocean. It is the county seat of the consolidated City and County of Honolulu, situated along the southeast coast of the island of Oʻahu. Read more →
City descriptions adapted from Wikipedia (CC BY-SA); photos via Wikimedia Commons, credited above.
Estimates use straight-line distance and typical road speeds; real drive times vary with route and traffic.