The fair place to meet is Richmond, VA — the city closest to the midpoint of Charlotte and New York. From the farther side that’s about 6 hr of driving.
Recommended midpoint
Richmond, VA
From Charlotte
5 hr 12 min
248 mi to Richmond
From New York
6 hr
286 mi to Richmond
Charlotte has the shorter trip; the split is off by about 48 min. The alternatives below can even it out. Charlotte and New York are about 531 miles apart.
Charlotte and New York are about 531 miles apart by road. Split the difference and you arrive near Richmond, the city closest to the halfway point between them. That puts roughly 5 hr 12 min of driving on the Charlotte side and 6 hr on the New York side — the fairest single meeting point among the cities near the middle.
That's a half-day drive from each side, so Richmond suits an overnight or a weekend rather than a quick coffee — long enough to want a reason to stay, short enough to drive.
If Richmond doesn't have what you're after, Washington and Raleigh are also close to the midpoint and worth a look — each keeps the drive reasonably balanced between Charlotte and New York.
Richmond is the capital city of the U.S. state of Virginia. Incorporated in 1742, Richmond has been an independent city since 1871. It is the fourth-most populous city in Virginia, with a population of 226,610 at the 2020 census. Read more →
Charlotte is the most populous city in the U.S. state of North Carolina. With a population of 874,579 at the 2020 census, it is the 14th-most populous city in the U.S., seventh-most populous city in the South, and second-most populous city in the Southeast. Read more →
New York, often called New York City (NYC), is the most populous city in the United States. It is located at the southern tip of New York State on New York Harbor, one of the world's largest natural harbors. Read more →
City descriptions adapted from Wikipedia (CC BY-SA); photos via Wikimedia Commons, credited above.
Estimates use straight-line distance and typical road speeds; real drive times vary with route and traffic.