The fair place to meet is Kansas City, MO — the city closest to the midpoint of New York and San Jose. From the farther side that’s about 31 hr 4 min of driving.
Recommended midpoint
Kansas City, MO
From New York
22 hr 56 min
1,094 mi to Kansas City
From San Jose
31 hr 4 min
1,482 mi to Kansas City
New York has the shorter trip; the split is off by about 8 hr 8 min. The alternatives below can even it out. New York and San Jose are about 2,549 miles apart.
New York and San Jose are about 2,549 miles apart by road. Split the difference and you arrive near Kansas City, the city closest to the halfway point between them. That puts roughly 22 hr 56 min of driving on the New York side and 31 hr 4 min on the San Jose side — the fairest single meeting point among the cities near the middle.
Over this distance most people will fly rather than drive the whole way. Kansas City still makes a fair, central place for New York and San Jose to converge, splitting the travel instead of asking one side to cross the country.
If Kansas City doesn't have what you're after, Omaha and Oklahoma City are also close to the midpoint and worth a look — each keeps the drive reasonably balanced between New York and San Jose.
Kansas City, abbreviated KC or KCMO, is the largest city in the U.S. state of Missouri by both population and area. It is located on the Missouri River at its confluence with the Kansas River, within Jackson, Clay, Platte and Cass counties. Read more →
New York, often called New York City (NYC), is the most populous city in the United States. It is located at the southern tip of New York State on New York Harbor, one of the world's largest natural harbors. Read more →
San Jose, officially the City of San José, is the most populous city in the San Francisco Bay Area and Northern California, and the 13th-most populous in the United States, with an estimated 989,814 residents as of 2025. Read more →
City descriptions adapted from Wikipedia (CC BY-SA); photos via Wikimedia Commons, credited above.
Estimates use straight-line distance and typical road speeds; real drive times vary with route and traffic.